90 Day Fiancé’s Big Ed Brown’s sexual harassment and assault accuser, Lordakeet, has opened up in detail about her allegations for the first time. Lordakeet, or Lorelei, who first made her claims public via TikTok, sat down exclusively with Daniel Babis from Daily Soap Dish to discuss her experience with Before the 90 Days cast-member “Big Ed.” In our video exclusive, she talks about the side of Big Ed Brown that we didn’t expressly see on Before the 90 days, the darker side that was hinted at, and how she knows it all too well.
“I Ended Up In the Hospital” – 90 Day Fiancé’s Big Ed Brown’s Sexual Assault Accuser Lordakeet Reveals Disturbing New Details In Exclusive Interview
Over the past few week’s there have been sexual assault allegations made about “Big Ed” from Lordakeet via her TikTok. In her videos, she claims that he groomed her for 9 months and that he sexually harassed and assaulted her. Other than those details, there hasn’t been much detail about who she and her full story. That’s why she is sitting down for the first time not only to shed light on her experience but to help inspire women who have experienced sexual trauma to share their stories.
This is her story.
So, who is Lordakeet exactly?
“Most of you know me as Lordakeet, but my real name is Lorelei Clemens. I live in San Diego. I’ve been here for almost 10 years; I came here for school. I have a BFA in interior design from the Design Institute of San Diego and a Master’s in Construction Management from the New School of Architecture and Design,” she first tells about herself, while, adding, “Actually, Ed Brown and I went to the same school we just didn’t go at the same time.”.
Clemens states Big Ed not only sexually harassed, but assaulted her as well.
“Yeah. It’s both. For about nine months, I was being harassed by him sexually and also assaulted by him. I don’t know if you’ve seen my last TikTok or one of my TikToks about an example of the first day that I met him, and that was also assault. So [there is] a lot going on with these allegations,” she revealed.
“Yeah. That was just day one,” Clemens confides about Big Ed putting her in an armlock on the first day they met.
Lordakeet goes on to detail how he groomed her for over nine months. His conduct progressively became worse to the point that she ended up in the hospital from an incident that happened with him.
“A lot. You know, he was grooming me, and you know when you’re being groomed, it’s really hard to know you’re being manipulated. So, it progressively got worse. By the end of it, I ended up in the hospital from an incident that happened with him, and I ended up having a lot of health issues from it. This was about four years ago, so I’ve been still trying to heal myself since that incident.”
Now 28, she believes Ed targeted her because she was young and easier to manipulate.
“I think Ed kind of has this MO for going for vulnerable, younger women, at the time I was 24, about the age of Rosemarie Vega, and at the age where you’re really trying to figure out what is going on in the world and you’re not quite sure how to handle situations like this. Especially if you aren’t taught them when you are younger, and generally with abusers like Ed, this is kind of like the perfect fit because they can manipulate them without too much ‘working’ for it if that makes sense.
In one of Lordakeet’s TikTok videos, she says that she didn’t want to be rude.
When asked if she feels if Big Ed took advantage of that, she says:
“Yeah. I mean, I genuinely as a person try to be kind to everyone, but especially also having abuse as a child, it’s kind of the norm not to know how to stand up for yourself. Also when you’re younger, and you’re starting a new job, and you’re trying to impress the owners you’re a little bit more hesitant to stand up for yourself, because technically this was my internship when I started and I kind of needed it to graduate, so I was scared that I would lose it if I stood up for myself. I honestly wanted to learn everything, and Ed kind of posed as the person who was going to teach me the business.”
She goes on to say that four years later, with more experience, she has learned to stand up for herself and is no longer in such a vulnerable position.
“Now that I’m 28 and I’ve been through more situations, and I’ve learned to stand up for myself, I definitely wouldn’t be in that position now. I was definitely in a very vulnerable situation in that point in my life.”
Lorelei decided to come forward because she wanted to help others. She feels like he is capable of doing this to other women.
“So generally in cases of sexual harassment and assault, sexual violence, the victim is not usually the first and they’re not the last. So, with that being said, I’m sure I’m not the first, and I’m sure that I’m not the last. I guess that kind of answers the question.” she said. ” I definitely do feel like he has taken advantage of other individuals in the past and you know, I don’t know what his true motives were on 90 day fiancé with Rose, but a lot of people can tell that he’s very manipulative in taking a young woman in a situation that he is more powerful than she is.”
Lorelei has an NDA and there’s been some discussion about it and what it entails, and maybe some confusion as well. She can’t talk specifically about what’s inside NDA but sheds some more light if it’s between her and Big Ed or a workplace type of NDA.
“So as many of you probably know, I worked with Ed, so I think that can lead to the imagination of what kind of NDA this is. Definitely, a third party is involved in this NDA; it’s not just about Ed and I. With that being said, it’s actually kind of difficult to actually describe what kind of NDA it is without going into detail. But I will say that I can describe what happened to me and that’s why I’ve decided to come forward,” she reveals.
Lorelei was asked about how she felt about seeing Big Ed on TV for the first time, knowing this happened to her. The man that she’s accusing of sexually harassing and assaulting her is all of a sudden turning into a reality TV star whose popularity is growing like a wildfire.
“I mean, initially it was very triggering, it’s been a lot of work to deal, but still the trauma of sexual violence, it’s very hard to get over and often times it will never go away because it doesn’t disappear. So it was very triggering, but I think with that pain, it sounds kind of weird, but it made me realize that I don’t want this to happen to anyone else, and if I can prevent that from happening, I’m going to. I tried to do it four years ago, but no one really knew who Big Ed was, and so I guess that pain kind of turned into motivation to help others,” she confides to Daily Soap Dish.
In response to people claiming, she is just coming out now that Big Ed is supposedly famous she says:
“I understand because they don’t know what happened four years ago, so I did confront, not Ed but the workplace about it. I did speak up about it. But no one wanted to take action at that time. So, you know, I felt I did what I could, I spoke about it, I brought it to light about what was happening. It was by chance that Ed happened to come on 90 day fiancé, I had no idea that he was going to be on it until honestly, someone had told me about it by accident. So, it makes sense if you haven’t seen the whole picture,” she says.
When asked how hard it was to come out, specifically considering that Ed is becoming a TV personality, and this obviously could have caused serious backlash for her, Lorelei says:
“You know, it was very difficult. I took a couple of months to kind of meditate and really figure out if I wanted to take that step forward. With that being said, I really felt that it was important that I come forward even if there was a lot of backlash from people. I mean there’s always going to be people that don’t understand, but at the end of the day it’s the victims that understand it and generally people react out of fear and it’s cruel when they react out of fear or they just don’t understand the situation and that’s not my fault. I’m just here to set an example for other victims that even if they feel like they can’t come forward there’s always the option. They have the power; they don’t have to feel like someone owns their words or their story.”
Lorelei actually tried to share her story with TLC before revealing the accusations online.
“Yeah, so initially I tried to contact TLC, I actually reached out to a couple of media outlets before posting on TikTok, but there wasn’t really any response from anyone, so I decided that I’m going to try and take this into my own hands and hopefully someone sees this story and can talk about it,” she says.
Before Lorelei named Ed by name, she had some videos where she was saying that it was very triggering to see the person that sexually harassed and assaulted her on tv. It seemed she was openly contemplating dropping this whole thing for some time before going through with it.
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“Yeah, I definitely was. When I found out three months ago, I had a lot of things to take into account, not just myself, my husband, and the potential consequences, but I would say it’s definitely worth it.”
Even with the #MeToo movement, Lorelei feels that there is a stigma surrounding sexual violence.
“I definitely do feel like there’s a lot of stigma that surrounds sexual violence. You know, culturally, I think it’s hard to admit that these terrible things happen and it’s really hard to understand why someone would do this to another person. But if you look at other crimes, such as a house robbery and the robber comes in and threatens to take all the valuables, we don’t blame the person that was being robbed and nor do we claim that the robber said that the victim consented to it. So, it’s kind of the same thing with sexual violence. The person didn’t ask to be sexually violated, many times they didn’t even consent, they didn’t say anything, they were probably being threatened.”, she, while adding, “So there’s a lot of variables surrounding it and I think a lot of misunderstanding. Still people don’t realize that anyone who is the victim of sexual trauma, it happens a lot more than you really think. A lot of comments on my TikTok have been, “oh, she’s making it up” but it’s very uncommon for victims to make this kind of thing up and if you do hear them making it up it’s a very rare occurrence and that’s why you see it because the news is rare occurrences You know, I think that’s so people can really understand and let those stigmas drop, I think there’s always going to be this fear of coming out and telling your story as a victim.
Along with the added pressure of coming out as a victim, you have to expose yourself, and you have to put yourself out there to be criticized and still people want to tear you down and not believe in what happened to you And this is probably the reason why some people don’t come out because it’s a pretty gutsy move to just get out there and say ‘Yeah, this happened to me, and it’s not a positive thing but it did”, and then face the criticism and the wrath people that are just not willing to believe you.
” Yeah. A big part of why it makes it so difficult to come out is because sexual trauma actually causes PTSD. There’s a lot of mental anguish that you’re dealing with on top of the stigma, and you’re trying to balance yourself, and people are trying to criticize you. Until the stigma drops, it won’t change. Victims will still feel really reluctant to come out and tell their story.”
Daily Soap Dish would like to thank Lorelei for coming out and doing this interview with us and putting herself in a vulnerable position by explaining what happened. If anybody wants to see more of her message, they can visit her TikTok right here: https://www.tiktok.com/@lordakeet?
She’s also on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lr_clemens/
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