’90 Day Fiancé’ spoilers tells that if you’ve heard the saying that the things we don’t like in others are the things that we really don’t like in ourselves, right? Well, that seems to apply to the Melyza and Tim situation.
So Melyza got all kinds of mad at Tim for cheating on her last year, which, okay, she’s entitled to that. But then we find out that she dated someone else while they were broken up and she has not mentioned one word about it to Tim.
’90 Day Fiancé’ Spoilers: Wasn’t the whole issue between them honesty in the first place?
Now she thinks she can get away with not telling him about dating someone else, granted it was not serious, but she still imposes a level of fidelity on him that she doesn’t seem to impose on herself. This doesn’t seem fair to Tim.
He’s trying to play by her rules, she demands that he get a job first, he has a job but it’s back in the states. She got mad at him for keeping his job back in the states, why, did she want him to be completely financially insecure in a foriegn country?
I think that’s unrealistic and bordering on abusive. According to the Brazillian government, the thing he needs to do is get married first and then find a job, but unless he finds a job Melyza is not going to marry him, so it’s a real cache-22.
Meanwhile, she’s asking her brother and her brother’s friend for advice on Tim. Telling them that he’s the one that needs to change and maybe that does need to happen but the fact of the matter is she is not actually being fair to him in this case.
What does she want him to do, take a quite possibly illegal, underpaying job so that he can be there with her and be under her thumb? Now, we don’t know what Melyza endured while she was here in the states with Tim, but as I see it, that’s one hell of a punishment for cheating.
Also, that seems to be really long and drawn out, the cheating happened a long time ago and he hasn’t done anything since with another woman as far as we know (we’re giving Tim the benefit of the doubt here.), so why be unecessarily cruel to the guy?
I think Melyza just needs to cut the guy loose already, send him back to his financially secure job in the US and let him find a nice girl that can cook him Brazillian cuisine, I’m sure there are a lot of women who fit that description. This is another couple I have my doubts about. Stay tuned!!!